MEN'S CORNER: WARNING SIGNS SHE ISN'T THE WOMAN YOU NEED!

Romantic encounters can last until "death do you part"…or, alternatively, one night. But for the space of time in between, your goal is to separate the girl who should stay from the rest who should go. To help you weed out the bad seeds, let us look at the actions that signify that the girl you are with is simply not worth your time. If a girl hits two-thirds mark out of the below highlighted attitudes, I bet you should rather hit the gym or hang out with the boys than put up with her BS. Yeah, you are better off without her! 

Now give the following questions some thought:

• Does She Make Everything Always About Her? 

You got a promotion (score!), and your lady wants to talk about the Kardashians. Sound familiar? You are excited about work or life goals, but she is switching the subject to involve her interests. It is a sure sign she is selfish and cares nothing about you. If this is the case, wouldn't you rather jump ship now and save yourself the trouble of being involved with someone who thinks nothing about what makes you tick? Yes, I advice you jump ship now. You do not want to invest your time in someone who thinks nothing about what makes you happy, do you? 

• Does She Have Different Values?

Opposites attract, but not when it comes to values and world views. As a die-hard Arsenal fan, overcoming her love for Chelsea, the Blue sides of London, might be sports suicide. Other issues of life prove to be even more problematic, like if you have different religious beliefs which can't be reconciled, or if you have different ways of managing money and expenses. These dissimilarities will ultimately lead to complications, if you continue with her. 

• Does She Name-drop Her Ex?

It is bad enough to hear about one ex-file. But an entire encyclopedia worth of info? No, thanks. This means that she has not grieved him, and it is right to state that you are in danger of being the rebound boyfriend. The sad truth is that she is merely using you to escape her pain, rather than choosing you out of desire. Though getting a little history on her most recent relationship, to gauge if enough time has passed since her ex, is acceptable, as it is important to ensure she has had space to be alone. But if she keeps whining about her ex at the slightest opportunity, it is a red flag, and one you do not want to live to experience. 

• Is Initiating Contact One-sided?

Women appreciate men who make the first move, but when a woman is legitimately interested, she will reach out in due time. There should be a balance of communication initiation by both parties, if there is truly attraction and mutual interest. Communication is a two-way street. But when a woman makes reaching out something you only should always do, man, it is time to beat it. There is no better way to announce she is not keen about you.

• Is the Relationship Blowing Hot and Cold?

Is she nice in one moment and then the next she is not-so-much, and it’s always your fault? Oops, that's not fun! Some women have been socialized to believe that they have to torment a man before he will value her. If she makes you feel you must put up with her sh*ts to prove that you are the right man, she is not worth it. Don’t put up with the games, unless you like to lose!

• Are You Not At Your Best Self When With Her?

If her habits make you want to scream, if she points out your flaws and brings you down most of the time, she is never going to help you grow. If you fight a lot and feel irritable, drained, defensive and never good enough, she’s not for you. The point is to be happy. But when the first thing out of her mouth is a complaint, you are certain to begin to dread what she has to say. When a woman makes you feel you are not good enough for her, don't stress further trying to please her. It is a game you are never going to win.

• Is She a Damsel In Distress Who Needs a Saviour?

Feeling like Superman can be a rush, but it is not your job to save her from her own problems. If you meet a woman who acts helpless, needy, and dependent or is wounded or mentally ill, remember, all she needs is support and therapy, and not you. As much as you may like the idea of being her hero, that kind of relationship is not really a partnership, and gets old really fast.

• Is She Unfaithful?

Game over. Time to move on-ASAP. There can be no love without trust. Putting her unfaithfulness behind you may prove a daunting task to achieve. It is better you move on once that connection of trust is broken! 

Remember, ending up with the wrong woman is the worst suicidal road any man can tread. The truth remains that no matter how hard you try, you will never be happy when you choose to be with the wrong woman. Whatever you feel for her now is nothing compared to your long-term happiness. Be wise!