Some men lose out on potential girlfriends/lovers on the first date. Most often than not, the reason for this is not a lack of good looks or a want of confidence in keeping conversation going. Rather, the problem has to do more with trying too hard to impress the woman with the knowledge of what they think they know. What some men fail to realise is that there is a thin line between impressing a woman and pissing her off. And the worst way to strike the wrong cord in a woman on a date is to play Mr. Know-it-all on a very sensitive topic. Yes, some topics are obvious turn-offs and conversation killers when with woman, especially if her views are on the opposite end of the pole as the man's.
Dates are avenue to learn a few more things about a potential partner, and should not become a debate ground. But since there is no means of devicing on what side of the coin a woman's view would be on the first date, it is better to avoid conversations with extreme opinions all together.
Try all you can to limit your talks to innocent discussions. Do not fall into a bad conversation just because you want:
i. to fill a silence.
ii. to sound smart and impressive.
Here are a list of topics I consider as Date Conversation Killers, and you should try all it takes to avoid bringing them up when on a date...
- Date Conversation Killer 1
RELIGION: It is all right if you want to know what religion affiliation a woman belongs. But leave it at just that. Do not go blabbing about your religious views. Do not make the mistake of trying to point out why some religious views are off the mark. It does not even matter, if the woman tend to share same religion affliation as you. She may have someone she cares a great deal about who upholds the religious values you are slighting.
Remember, more wars have stemmed from conflicts in religious views than from any other reason.
- Date Conversation Killer 2
POLITICS: Most of the world's problems bother on politics. And there are bound to be divergent views on how these problems could be fixed. And whoever says the woman you are with on a date would share your viewpoint! As much as trying to impress a lady with your knowledge of the world politics may be tempting, do not fall into its trap.
Remember, you are on a date in the first place, and not a forum to discuss the troubles of the world!
- Date Conversation Killer 3
WORK HASSLES: Do not go blurting out all the frustrations you are faced with at your workplace, be it the challenges of your job, a colleague you do not get along with or even an overbearing boss. Discussing the job which pays your bills in bad light would no doubt be a piss-off to any sensible woman.
Talking in a negative way about your job or slagging a colleague or boss scores you no point, instead it could make your date think you are even the bad egg of the company.
- Date Conversation Killer 4
PERSONAL ISSUES: Everyone has got one issue or another they are grappling with in their personal life. So, what is the point of putting yours up for discussion on a date? Talking about personal problems to a woman who to a large extent is still a stranger is a reflection of how things play in your head. If it does not make you come across as a creep, it will definitely make her think you are not worth it since you cannot handle you personal issues yourself. Heed the warning!
- Date Conversation Killer 5
GENDER & RACIAL EQUALITY: For all intents and purposes, steer clear of topics that bother on feminism, gender issues and equality among races. It is a banana skin, so do not go treading on it. Be warned!
Remember, the next time you are out on a date, not all topics are worth a mention. You are on a date to thrill the woman and not to freak her out!
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