Friend Zone: Watch it! Before You Get in The Dreaded Zone

The feeling that comes with being friend zoned is not as cosy as the name suggests. Friend zone is a position where no one wants to be. It is a situation (condition) where one falls in love and all the other party wants is just friendship. No one likes it there. It is a dreaded zone. 

But the irony of it all is that as dreaded as friend zone is, everyone who has ever been there earned himself the right in the first place, albeit without realising it. No one has ever been friend zoned without his consent! Friend zone is not somewhere anyone can lead you, unless you are readily willing. But what makes it the most worrisome is that anyone can fall a victim...

Hey! Don't get it twisted, your being friend zoned depends on you; it is a consequence of what you do rather than things you fail to do. So, in order to avoid this dreaded zone, there are don'ts you need to constantly keep in your consciousness. Make them your Rules of the Thumb, a guideline in your interaction with the opposite sex you have got the hots for.

• Don't get too familiar

It is okay to be friendly with a girl but it is not all right to get too familiar with a girl you are attracted to sexually. Most girls would prefer dating a guy whom they still have a few things to learn about to one they have known virtually everything about. It is the way they are wired...they are a curious specie. 

• Don't delay your decision

There is no faster alley to friend zone than waiting till you know a girl better before deciding to be romantic. Make your intention to be involved known right from the outset. Let what you feel about her be in her subconsciousness from the word go.

• Don't try too hard

In order to be close to a girl, do not fall prey to doing all you can just because you want her to approve of you. Being at a girl's beck and call before dating is a trick that will succeed in landing you in the friend zone 95 percent of the times.

• Don't be afraid of rejection

Do not let the fear of getting a 'No' for an answer make you settle for being 'just friends' with a girl, with the hope that someday she would see how a great 'boyfriend-material' you are. Women are mostly influenced by what you tell them and not what they perceive of you. An a**hole who speaks his mind to a girl will succeed where a good guy who keeps mute about his feelings fails. And whoever says when a woman gives you a 'No' is definitive!

• Don't play the boyfriend

Try all you can to avoid creating the impression that you can be a girl's 'substitute-boyfriend'. The danger of this is that once a girl realises that she can enjoy all the benefits only her boyfriend should necessarily give from you with no string attached, you have succeeded in landing yourself in the dreaded friend zone. Do not play the boyfriend when you are not one!

• Don't be her Drain-waste-vent (DWV)

Every girl needs that friend with the listening ear and comforting words to pour out the frustrations of her relationship. Do not be that person to her, unless you are willing to be friend zoned!

There is no problem with being friends with the opposite sex, if that is what you want. But unless that is the intention, save yourself the heartache that comes with being friend zoned. The efforts it will take to get out of the friend zone you leisurely walk into is very daunting. And God help you, if getting out is not a moment too late!


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