Great chances are, these are what your man wants from you:
Let him be a man: Your man is not a robot, he needs to unwind once in a while. And the best way he tends to achieve this is by hanging out with the boys. Bonding with his hommies helps relieve him of stress. So, remember, the next time he wants to keep up with his peeps, he is just being a man.
Cook a meal: Whoever coined the saying, 'The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach' was spot on. Cook your guy a delicious meal every once in a while, and score yourself some brownie points.
Watch his favourite sports with him: Think of this as taking interest in something that he is passionate about. Be a part of the basketball or football match he is watching and root for his team. You can never get this wrong!
Surprise him once in a while: Don't be too predictable. He wants to be surprised too. Take a break from the traditional and surprise him, once in a while.
Don’t keep him guessing: While playing hard to get works at times, in a relationship but don't overdo it. Your man wants you to express yourself honestly. He is no clairvoyant to be able to always tell what is going on in your mind, remember.
Tell him you love him: He wants to be reminded of how much you love and care about him, even in moments of his imperfections. Each time he has a bad day at work, says something embarrassing in front of your friends, does a household chore wrong, take a moment and make him feel loved. After all, wouldn't you love him to do same to you?
Leave the insecurity aside: Learn to trust your man. If he says he wasn’t checking out that girl, believe him. Besides, there is a big difference between looking and wanting. Know this and feel secured and confident in your relationship.
Have your own life: No man is ever going to say this to you, but it is important to have your own set of friends, passions and hang-outs. Couple acts are good but every once in a while take a break and be by yourself and your girls.
Tell him what you want: His mind is wired differently and you might have to spell out really obvious things for him to understand. So, if he says no to attending your best friend’s birthday bash, don’t just say ‘fine’ and expect him to know that he has to be there. Look him in the eye and say it.
Don’t be mentally accompanied: Your ex is an ex for a reason and no matter how badly he broke your heart constant comparisons between him and your current flame helps no one. The truth is, your man does not want to be constantly reminded of your past relationship. It gives him the impression, you have not fully let go of what you and your ex shared.
If he says he’s fine, he is: If he doesn’t communicate but says he is fine, chances are he really is. Let him have his space and take his time to deal with issues. Don’t try to force a reaction out of him.
Hold passionate conversations: No, this is not what you are thinking! When with your man, say what you really want to. Tell him about your dreams, your passions without having the fear of sounding un-cool. Just be yourself and avoid putting up an act about what your dreams are.
Lend an attentive ear: He wants you to lend a supportive shoulder and an attentive ear in his trying moments. This nonetheless helps you to know the real him with all his insecurities and unfulfilled dreams. And this in turn will help you know him better and understand his behaviour.
Let him be the hero: Everyone needs positive affirmations from time to time. Let you man know that you appreciate him and he makes you happy.
Be emotionally mature: Handle the differences in your relationship in a mature manner. Rather than charting blame or criticising, acknowledge the problem and work towards it.
His love is not about words but actions: You might not hear him appreciate you often because he prefers to show his feelings through actions rather than words. He might not be the type that says, ‘I love you’ everyday but he might fix things around the house, keep your car running and at times even take out the trash!
Leave the third party out: While we women love to share our feelings with our BFFs there are some things (only some!) that must be kept between the two of you. Don’t let the third person become an active voice in your relationship.
He really is listening: Do not let the fact that he isn't looking at you in the eyes or chipping in a word or two while you are telling him about something bother you. He is carefully taking in all you are saying. So, if he is just staring ahead while you talk, don’t worry he is listening quietly to what you are saying.
Men let go faster: Your man is less likely to dwell on the unpleasant happening between you two and move on. So while you may want to discuss last night’s argument, chances are your guy barely remembers it. Don’t misconstruct it as lack of concern, he is just wired differently.
Keep it interesting: Once in a while, do something totally unexpected and mysterious. It helps keep things exciting for both of you.
